FATHERS WITHOUT CHILDREN

By law and according to their constitutional rights, both parents have an equal right to parent their children.

In practice, the courts tend to give the children to the mothers.

If the divorcing mother is angry with the father, she can make it extremely difficult for the father to see the children.

MY ADVICE:

YOU ARE ENTITLED to see your children. Sometimes a judge will order therapeutically supervised visits, where the parent sees the children in a therapist's office. If you think you can not get the judge to give you regular unsupervised visits, take the therapeutically supervised visits as the therapist can report to the judge about your interactions with the children and perhaps get you the regular visits. IF YOU INSIST on visitation your way, you may never get to see your kids. (Of course, this presumes that you can AFFORD to pay the therapist.)

The courts appreciate the opportunity to have input from a trained, licensed dispassionate professional. In a child custody battle, the therapist can explain the situation to the judge. Stop thinking of it as "I do not need therapy" and start thinking of it as "I could use a witness that the judge will believe."

FRANKLY, I think it was better when people fought over the furniture. If people are going to fight, it is better that they fight over the furniture, than fight over the children. Furniture does not have feelings.