However, sometimes the child will lie when he/she accuses a person of abuse.
Why would a child lie? There are many reasons for a child to lie. But, in the cases I have seen, the child is lying in order to control the behavior of the parental figure. A child who has oppositional defiant disorder can be adamantly opposed to ANY parental control. As the parent tries his/her best to control the child's refusal to follow simple rules, such as get ready for school, fold your clothes, do not see dangerous 'friends', the child may decide to control the parent by threatening to accuse the parent of child abuse. If the parent continues to correctly discipline the child, the child may carry through with his/her threat and call Child Protective Services or the police.
Sometimes, when the parental figures are separating, the child realizes that the other parent will be an ally in his/her false charge of abuse.
When charges of abuse are made, the police and the prosecutor do NOT allow the person making the charges to withdraw the charges. This refusal to allow withdrawal of the charges makes the situation MUCH WORSE. Imagine that IF, when you said, "I HATE my parents, they are SO UNFAIR, I wish they were DEAD," the police and DDA shot them dead for you. (And if you think convicted child abusers do not often wish they were dead, you have NO IDEA of what they go through as a consequence of the conviction.)
REAL ABUSERS, who get away with it for years, are generally VERY CHARMING AND PERSUASIVE PEOPLE.
By convicting the innocent, you make your statistics regarding child abuse look great. You are able to say, if someone is arrested for child abuse, we will get a conviction. Often the conviction is gotten by setting the bail high so the person is in jail while waiting for the system to work. Often, the conviction is gotten by ignoring evidence such bruises on the parent. Often, the conviction is gotten even if the allegedly abused child takes back his/her accusation. Often, the conviction is gotten by overcharging the case. (This is when the prosecution charges an obvious misdemeanor as a felony, so they can plea bargain for a misdemeanor guilty plea.) Often, a public defender is denied, as the person arrested does not qualify for a public defender, but cannot actually afford a private attorney.
BY CONVICTING THE INNOCENT, YOU ARE ABLE TO IGNORE THE REALLY GUILTY. You know, those charming men who do it again and again. THOSE WHO REALLY ABUSE CHILDREN generally leave physical evidence. Sometimes that physical evidence is an entire back yard full of tents and toys.
Luckily, children are not very good liars. The child may say he/she was locked in a room which has an easily accessible window and door to the outside. The child may say that the parent is unfair in discipline. The child may say that something happened 30 times, but when asked to describe each event, can only remember one event. Unfortunately, the statements of abuse are taken as the truth, and every other statement the child makes is ignored.
CHILD ABUSERS almost always make friends with the child. They give the child toys or access to adult activities.
OF COURSE, some abusers do hold the child captive, but such captivity leaves physical evidence behind.
CHILD ABUSE CHARGES, without physical evidence, should result in mandatory counseling for both the child and the parental figure. Let the child decide if he/she should withdraw the charges.
BY PROSECUTING these cases, you are damaging both the parental figure and the child. Can you IMAGINE living with the guilt of having destroyed your family because you lied about child abuse that did not happen?
